One day I asked a client, "What would you like?"
She replied with, "Why? Did my face give an indication that I don't like what's going on now?"
My questions often flow from curiosity, but at times they can feel more like a statement.
Let me offer an example, "Does that make sense?" This question could go either way depending on tone and circumstance, although I hope I would always be open to new information.
My students might tend to hear "tone" even with none intended. My partner misses "tone" entirely, going straight to my question as a request for information, as in, "Are you going to leave this here?" Even in print on your screen you hear the tone, right?
Perhaps the more adult approach in that circumstance might have been, "Do you suppose we could find a more permanent location for this?" Maybe. Maybe not.
What do you find in your relationship with questions? (Or in your question with relationships?) I am curious about what and how you think.
Are you just going to move on, mulling this subject over in your head without responding in a way I can receive it? Did that question have, "tone?"
Do you even have time to think anymore? To question?
I love this question: "What would you like?" because I'm really asking!
I am learning to cultivate an open and innocent mind and to create a culture of curiosity. Less tone, more Om!
Mahalo and much Aloha, San Diego Style! Judy